How Do You Keep the Novelty & Fun Alive in Your Relationship?

Young couple doing salsa or latin american dancing togetherIn a recent post I discussed the importance of  consciously working on the relationship and like plants relationships need tendering to grow and reach their full potential. That if not cared for consciously, that lack of effort over time can create havoc on what was once a truly loving union.

Relationships need constant tendering to maintain the connection and deepen the intimacy…

… And that’s not always easy to do. So what are some things that you can do to keep the relationship alive and fresh and continually grow together?Continue Reading

Say No to Negativity & Criticism in Your Relationship & Watch Your Relationship Flourish

Youn couple having an argument Several posts ago I mentioned the importance of creating a negative free environment as a means for a relationship to develop and deepen in connection…

Agreeing to foster an environment with a zero tolerance for negativity or criticism is a powerful decision to make to ensure that your relationship has a solid foundation to grow and deepen in a very loving supportive manner. Continue Reading

Are you Playmates? Do You have Fun & Laugh Together? Powerful Ingredients in Loving

Couple having fun together on a balcony

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It’s well known that couples that have fun and laugh together… have the foundation for a healthy and solid relationship… one that is bound to deepen in love and connection to and for one another.

It’s clear to everyone that these couples have a sparkle in their relationship… that they enjoy being in one another’s company… But have you ever wondered why?Continue Reading

Are You Certain that Your Messages of Love Are Being Heard?

Young woman getting breakfast in bed and a large red gift box on the breakfast trayDid you know that we each have our own love language…? That there are in fact five unique or different love languages? And that in the absence of knowing the love language of your partner you run the risk of your messages of love and affection not being heard or worse entirely missed?

Yes that’s right. There are five unique languages of love. And each of us responds best to only one of these. In other words if we’re not spoken to in our unique love language we fail to hear the messages of love sent to us…

That’s a hard fact to appreciate isn’t it?Continue Reading

Improve Your Communication Effectiveness – Use Active Listening, Questions & Heartfelt Words

Effective communication is foremost about improving your ability to listen. That is actively or empathetically listening to one another and responding accordingly.

Blue bird whispering into a woman's earLearning to listen actively or empathetically is an important skill in improving your communication effectiveness and something that I urge all couples to learn how to do.

Active or Empathetic Listening
So what is active or empathetic listening…? Active listening is when you listen attentively, fully engaged… And in so doing become cognizant not only of the other person’s language and choice of words… but on hearing those words rather than assuming that through your own filters of experience and perception you’ve received the message intended, check in with the sender of the message…empathetic to their choice of words.

…So using the sender’s key words check in … to see that you’ve interpreted or received the message correctly… that the message received is in fact, the message intended.

Why Listen Actively In This Way?
It’s so easy to assume that we’ve heard what was intended and understand the message that was sent… Sadly this is rarely the case.

Actively or empathetic listening is a means of eliminating or reducing potential misinterpretations or misleading exchanges… because you’re checking in with the other person, the sender, clarifying that you’ve received the intended message.

It’s important to remember that we all use words differently, and while the words themselves may seem important… because we use that differently it’s very easy to misinterpret what the sender intended with those words.Continue Reading

How do You Keep the Love in YOUR Relationship Alive & Sizzling?

Sadly many people believe that it’s challenging to keep the love in their relationship alive and sizzling. They expect the love to fade! And some Couple looking very affectionately at one another as they dance togetherbelieve that it’s only in new love by its very nature that the sparkle lives.

Not so! When you know what ignites the spark – mature relationships can be far deeper and more meaningful than ‘new love’ – reaching unparalleled levels of depth and devotion.

So what are the secrets of keeping your relationship alive and fresh and the love deeper than ever before?Continue Reading

‘I don’t want to talk about it’ – Seven Little Words that are Toxic to Relationship Bliss & Success

Communication is key component to healthy relationshipsSeven Toxic Words to Avoid

‘I don’t want to talk about it!’ Ever uttered these words to your partner or heard them from him?

There’s been a disagreement, a conflict of some sort, either big or small and feeling hurt, angry, confused or unloved you or your partner shut down – and either you or he has uttered these words or something similar.Continue Reading

Are You the Best of Friends? – 3 Keys to Having a Healthy Loving Relationship…

Young couple sharing a milkshake togetherWe all want our relationships to be healthy, loving and fulfilling…It’s what every couple deserves and in the ideal what we all dream about…

I’m sure that you wouldn’t be reading this article or visiting my site if you weren’t seeking this or didn’t agree with me…And while you may have experienced some bumps along the way the intention for all of us is for our relationships to be truly loving and fulfilling…and for them to deepen over time…Continue Reading

The Power of Loving Touch to Enhance & Deepen Intimacy & Connection in Any Relationship…

To Touch is to Give Life’  Michelangelo

Young couple at the pool connecting with loving touchLast week I was sitting outside at a favourite café having lunch when a young couple sat down at a table next to me. Now this café is very small – with only 6 tables outside so it’s very easy to notice what other diners are doing and how they are interacting with one another. One of the things I love about this café is that in being so small it’s quite an intimate affair. Most of the diners are regulars… known to the waiters by name. And being in a location that doesn’t attract a lot of passing traffic it’s frequented primarily by locals.Continue Reading