Are You Certain that Your Messages of Love Are Being Heard?

Young woman getting breakfast in bed and a large red gift box on the breakfast trayDid you know that we each have our own love language…? That there are in fact five unique or different love languages? And that in the absence of knowing the love language of your partner you run the risk of your messages of love and affection not being heard or worse entirely missed?

Yes that’s right. There are five unique languages of love. And each of us responds best to only one of these. In other words if we’re not spoken to in our unique love language we fail to hear the messages of love sent to us…

That’s a hard fact to appreciate isn’t it?Continue Reading

Spice up Your Relationship with these Simple & Fun, Conscious Connection Practices

Young lovers walking down the streetIn an earlier post I outlined the role Dopamine and Serotonin play in experiencing the feelings of closeness and connection in the early phases of love. In that post I explained that it’s the presence of these love hormones that are responsible for how we feel, that ‘blinded in love’ feeling.

After this initial phase, there are two other hormones that are responsible for the love and connection experienced in the early years of partnership, Vasopressin, and Oxytocin. These two hormones are largely present in the early years, and remain so with couples who experience a healthy and satisfying sex life.Continue Reading

Healthy Fun Loving Communication! A Key Component in Keeping Love & the Connection Alive

Couple sitting on a park bench & not speaking to one anotherWhen communication is broken the connection fades!

Have you ever sat at a restaurant or coffee shop and found yourself intrigued by the conversations that waft passed you? Observed other people and their engagement and wondered what led them to interact in this manner? How about when you see a young couple in a restaurant so engaged with one another that even the waiter or waitress has difficulty interrupting – to get their attention to take their order or deliver their food? Does it bring a smile to your face or ignite an inner glow in you – remembering how delicious those treasured moments were and are?Continue Reading

Want a Healthy, Deeply, Loving Relationship? – Easy! Focus on One Conversation at a Time!

Couple sitting on couch discussing something important Yesterday I found myself sitting outside on a terrace enjoying the sun – the heat and feel of summer in the air. I was at a local Italian restaurant, seated outside on the terrace which is elevated from the street below- and so overlooks the busy street below. I was on my own, having lunch, prior to going to a movie- something I love to do on a Sunday afternoon. And as I waited for my order I decided to spend the time making a few notes on articles that I wanted to write.

The week had been a busy one and I had not had time to write my usual number of posts. So this seemed a good time to jot down some of the many ideas that were swimming around in my head. The restaurant was very busy. All the tables were full. I took out my notepad and took a sip of wine, and as I did I reminded myself of how fortunate I am. Just to be able to sit here on a sunny afternoon, enjoying a cool glass of wine and letting the world slip by.Continue Reading

Don’t Put Your Head in the Sand! Relationships Need Nurturing to Deepen & Grow!

Ostrich with its head in the sand Relationships are like plants. They need to be nurtured and watered to grow and to develop. Neglect these basics and the relationship soon loses its gloss, its lustre and its ability to stand the weathering of time.

I often write about strategies for couples to adopt that will enable them to deepen their love for one another and keep the zing in their relationship alive and fresh! If you’ve read previous articles you’ll know that I am a great advocate for couples spending time together consciously discussing and sharing what keeps them aglow. Doing so ensures that the romance and love in the relationship is never taken for granted. Done on a regular basis, this small strategy ensures that over time rather than fading the love between the two of you deepens – deepens in two very important ways, increased respect and mutual admiration.Continue Reading

Deepen the Love & Connection in Your Relationship–With Mini Dates! 15 Minutes a Day!

A clock spiralling into a 15 minute timeframeDid you know that the average couple spends less than 5 minutes a day connecting meaningfully with one another? By meaningfully I mean exchanging words or touching one another with loving intent – with the sole purpose of connecting or deepening the relationship in a meaningful way!

Less than 5 mins per day!!!!!

Compare this to when you were dating? Do you remember the hours spent talking and connecting with one another when you were dating? What happened? Where did all that intent for physical closeness, and sharing news of one another’s day go? And more importantly what impact does such a small amount of time given to meaningful connection do to the longevity and intimacy in a relationship?Continue Reading