Discover the Fun & Playfulness that Deeply, Loving Relationships Foster & Share

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In a recent post I mentioned the power of laughter to foster the connection and sense of lovingness in a relationship. That laughter while in its own right is fun, has the additional benefit of causing Dopamine the bonding hormone to be released into the system which is responsible for you feeling so good.

And if that’s the case why not use laughter and light heartedness as a means of keeping your relationship in flow, fully engaged and connected?

Consciously Bring Laughter into the Relationship
For some people seeing the funny side of things comes naturally. By nature they’re optimists… rarely frustrated or angry by external events, let alone by something their partner may have said or done….

For most of us, however, finding mirth or the funny side of a situation requires much more effort…

Even more challenging for many of us is making the effort to be spontaneous, let alone consciously more light-hearted!

If you like me, fit into the second category then finding humour and laughter on a daily basis can be a bit of a challenge…!

…but take heart there’re small loving gestures that when adopted will bring a smile to your partner’s face…! And have the desired affect…

And I promise you the rewards are worth it!

Where to Begin?
Start by thinking of some small things that you can do… Adjustments in your behaviour…with the aim of bringing a smile to your partner’s face, and at the same time breaking up the day!

Leave a small note of appreciation where it can be unexpectedly found…in a lunch box, suit pocket, in the fridge or on the bathroom mirror – Use your imagination and wait for the rewards!

  • Send an sms or text message when it’s least expected – a message of fun, appreciation or an invitation to do something together…for no reason… Just a reminder of how much your partner means to you… And make this a habit!
  • Give your partner a kiss when they’re least expecting it
  • Put your arms up in the air and insist on a big, spontaneous hug…
  • Recall some of the things that you used to do when you were dating and brought a smile to each other’s face – revisit some of these…

Once you embrace the idea of consciously bringing more laughter into the relationship you’ll think of a thousand ways to do so… And as you do, you’ll very quickly be rewarded for your efforts…

And don’t for ONE minute underestimate the power and magic of these simple gestures…

These may seem very simple ideas…but in motion these are powerful tools! And when used consistently will assist you in creating the relationship of your dreams…

These simple strategies are magic in the making.

Laughter gives us distance.
It allows us to step back from an event,
deal with it and then move on.    – Bob Newhart

And enjoy the process!

‘Laughter is the sensation of feeling good all over, and showing it principally in one place’ – Josh Billings Humorist (1818 – 1885)

Other Ways to Bring Lightness & Laughter into Your Relationship
Here’s another challenge for you…

If you and your partner have already developed some good communication patterns, here’s a challenge for you to consider…create a contest. Make it a game or a relationship ritual…

As to who can bring a smile to the other person’s face fastest? Or who can create the deepest fit of laughter? Or who can change the mood from one of seriousness to one of laughter quickest?

You get the drift…? Not to trivialise events but to celebrate your ability to love one another no matter what events show up…

Consciously aim to alter the mood and bring the sound of laughter as a common thread or theme into your relationship… Every day… And don’t be daunted by the idea that you’re making a conscious decision to create and bring more laughter into the relationship…

Remember when you were first dating and the effort you went to… Just to please? You’re rekindling that same thought and effort…

All change starts with conscious effort and can seem at first a little contrived…Persevere with it! The rewards are worth it…

Over time, and not too much time, this approach will become unconscious and natural. And the impact on your relationship bliss will be huge…

Small Changes Reap Big Rewards
Consider this… if you will…If you were travelling by ship from London to New York, and the Captain of the ship chose to change the steering direction by as little as one degree… the destination reached changes from New York to South America! From a 1% change or shift in direction…

That’s the net benefit of just one degree of change! That’s HUGE! So imagine the impact of a bigger or complete change…?

…So be the Captain of your ship, the relationship boat, and see where the journey takes you…and over time enjoy the benefits… that these small changes will make to your relationship and the connection you feel.

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